A Little Easter Update

Hi everyone!

I haven’t made a post in while, so I wanted to update everyone. First of all, it’s getting closer to summer which then means more time for blogging (yay)!

A lot of things have been happening since I last updated, so let’s just go down a list.

  1. I’ve been getting more hours at work which means less time for homework, blogging, and YDHS.
  2. I finally received the rest of the Won’t be a Statistic Campaign donations and dropped them off with Sam last Friday.
  3. I’ve been working on bringing new elements into YDHS to broaden our horizons.
  4. I began the journey of minimalism. It’s been really exciting!
  5. I recently celebrated my six months with my wonderful boy friend.
  6. I started a new workout routine (which has been interrupted since getting more hours at work).
  7. I’m continuing to shape myself, and my lifestyle.

Things have been stressful but oh so great at the same time!

I hope everyone has been doing great, and I can’t wait to be back full-time in June.

living a more peaceful life

PE

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It’s all About Networking

I’m sure most of you who are in the workforce, or getting ready to enter the workforce have heard that phrase often – it’s all about networking.  Networking is supposed to gain access to new opportunities you may not have had without that network (most likely a person).

I have always wanted to become a public/motivational speaker on topics that affect my life such as teen pregnancy, depression, and attaining goals and aspirations despite hard circumstances.

As some of you know, I graduated high school with honors this past year despite having a child at 16 and switching from regular school, to online, and back to regular school.

While the end of my senior year was approaching we had many senior meetings with our principal to discuss different topics such as the graduation ceremony, graduation requirements, moving onto college, and staying a part of our school family.

During one of our meetings, I believe it was the last one, our principal noted that even though we were moving onto bigger and better things, to never forget the family we had there.  He spoke of times former students would e-mail him expressing their thoughts and views on things going on at the school, and ways to improve student life.  He told us that he appreciates those e-mails and to always let him know of any ideas we have, or even just to say “hi”.

That struck a chord in me and I sat on it all summer long.  Then, one day I finally stood up and took action on my thought.  I had been working all senior year to guest speak in classes about being a teen parent.  Plans fell through however.  I decided I would take up my former principal on his offer to e-mail him any ideas we came up with.  So I e-mailed him.

In that e-mail I told him about my experience throughout high school, as I know I went to a school of over 2000 students and peoples’ stories can become lost in the crowd, unless you’re in the principals office often, which I never had been.  I couldn’t even tell you where his office was.  I expressed my desire to become a public speaker someday and thought that speaking at the high school would be a great stepping stone into that world.

I patiently awaited a response.  I also kept in mind that I contacted him during the hustle and bustle of back-to-school time, so I gave it a while.

Then I heard back from him and I was pleasantly surprised!  He forwarded the e-mail to one of the health teachers, who contacted me shortly there after.  He wanted to set up a meeting with me to discuss my idea for the speaking arrangement with him and another health teacher at the school.  Of course I was happy to do so!

I went to the meeting and it went great, regardless of my nerves.  He said he would contact me soon, after he ran it by the principal again just to make sure it was alright to book me for a speaking time.  I didn’t hear from him for a while and began to lose hope.  I started accepting that maybe this opportunity wasn’t the right one and I would come across another.

Then I had this inkling to check my e-mail today.  Just to make sure.

Low and behold I had an e-mail!  I got a date for my speaking opportunity and I couldn’t be any happier!  Now I can start planning what I’ll talk about and the activities that I will have the students do.

But, that’s not it!

My former principal also forwarded the original e-mail I sent him onto the student achievement advisor.  I got an e-mail from her as well. This is the big news.

She told me of a High School Forum that’s held at a local church each year.  This is where guest speakers come to speak about various topics related to sex education, relationships, self-esteem, and teen pregnancy.  10-20 students from each high school in our district (which is the largest in our state) attends the forum.

So what’s the big news?  (I love keeping you on the edge of your seat!)

She invited me to be the keynote speaker for the event!

Yes, you read that right!  ME – the keynote speaker at an event!  How amazing is that?!  Just truly amazing!  I can’t thank my former principal enough to give me these opportunities and give me ties to these people in my community.  I also can’t thank the teachers that I met with enough for opening their classrooms to me, to allow me to share my story in hopes it will affect these young persons’ lives.

I am beyond thrilled and ecstatic for these opportunities I’ve been blessed with.

you don’t fit the requirements for your dreams yet, 

become the requirements,

chase your dreams and you will succeed,

PE

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Last Round – Last Chance!

Hi everyone! I recently wrote about the most popular driver award for my racing. I wanted to say THANK YOU a million times to those who voted for me. I entered into the third and FINAL round today! This is the round in which the winner will be chosen so I need each and every one of you to vote for Payton English! Please take ten seconds to go to this link, click on Payton English, then vote. Afterward, get all of your friends and family vote as well! Share it on your facebook, blog, Twitter, etc. everything!

If you have voted, and share please comment below do I can thank you accordingly! I appreciate all of my amazing dans who have made this possible.

https://polldaddy.com/poll/8674161/

If you’d also like to support the Payton English Racing Team, and want a cool shirt, check out this link!

Have a great day!

Vote Now!

Hi everyone!  I hope you all are doing well. I know I said I probably wouldn’t be posting much due to school, but I needed to make this one post. I need your help everyone! As a lot of you know (or possibly don’t), I race stock cars and it’s my passion. I was in the running for 4th place in points at my home track this past season until the night before my birthday when I got into a bad wreck and got a concussion. I lost all chances at winning the top 5, and fell to 9th place.

Well, every year we have our awards banquet and they have a contest for the most popular driver award. This is where you come in! I need you all to go to the link below and vote for PAYTON ENGLISH. This is something that is very special to me as I fell out of the running for 4th place in points. I need everyone’s help to get me there. It’s entirely up to you if I win this or not!

There are THREE rounds of voting! The first round ends on February 18th. They will take the top 12 onto the second round starting February 19th and ending February 21st. After that they will take the top 6 from round two and vote for the winner starting February 22nd and ending February 28th, with the winner to be announced that night and the awards banquet. YOU CAN VOTE DURING ALL THREE ROUNDS SO DON’T FORGET!!!!

HERE IS THE LINK!

https://polldaddy.com/poll/8660392/

Thank you to each and every one of you!!!

Drowning – It Suffocates

Sometimes I believe us Americans are truly overworked.  We’re always being asked for more, more, more because society is greedy and demands progress every day.  Why can’t we take a step back and really be able to take the time to look at our life?  Why do we have to work to the point that we don’t even notice the time going by and it vanishes in the blink of an eye?  I would truly enjoy one day where time didn’t exist.  Where clocks weren’t readily available and I wasn’t scolded for not getting things done in 5 seconds flat.

We’re moving, moving, moving, and never slowing down.

In France they still adopt the “Sunday is a day of rest” philosophy.  Stores are closed down so that families stay home and spend time together, whereas in America Sunday is viewed as the day to get everything done before the work week begins again!  It’s a lot of pressure and it’s not healthy in my opinion.

Why do we have to be so rushed?  Why do things have to be done right this very moment?  I don’t understand.

Drowning, it suffocates

PE

Yes, This is My Life

You’ll notice Golden Grahams scattered across the floor due to my hyper chihuahua knocking over the bowl my daughter was eating from this morning.  The never ending amount of noise making toys my daughter has to have all out at once, even though she’s only interested in her Little People.  The cans of Sprite sitting on almost all of the tables because I can’t have caffeine since I have a concussion.  The large tote bag over by the basement door full of random things of mine that should have gone downstairs over a week ago.  The wide array of picture frames filling the white walls.  Papers all over that have no home.  The great amount of socks that have no mate and probably should be tossed but silently lay there unaccompanied.  The stacks of photographs my Mom has yet to put away from my Graduation party.

College papers.  Towels.  Pillows.  Blankets.

All silently resting amongst the house.

The sink full of dirty dishes because we’re all so busy with the hussle and bussle of our work days, and keeping up with this crazy dog and toddler.  Or the $5 pizza in the fridge from last night (which by the way is still good!).  The hamper full of days worth of clothes that should probably be put away but I’m too dizzy to stand for that long to do so.  My unmade bed which looks like a tornado hit it since I’ve been laying there for almost a week.  My unfinished walls that I started painting but have yet to complete because I became purely lazy and busy.

This is my life, and even though it can be exhausting and not so perfect, it’s all mine and I don’t want it any other way.  Except maybe I could do without this concussion 😉

PE

No – People Will Never Approve of You

I’ve learned something the past few days.  Something I already knew but often forget because I have such amazing people in my life.

I am a single teen mother, as most of you know.  I get judged constantly for it.  I’d say I’m a pretty damn good mother and am doing my best – but what have I done wrong?

Here, I’ll make a list for you.

  1. I had sex and had a child before marriage.
  2. I had sex and had a child before receiving a complete education (high school & college)
  3. I have received forms of public assistance in order to complete my education, and get a job to get myself on my feet so I can become a productive member of society.
  4. I am getting financial aid to pay for college so I can better myself and my daughter’s lives.
  5. I send my daughter to daycare so that I can work and make a living.

But here’s the thing, and what makes me mad the most.

How do you expect me to take back having sex and having a child before marriage and having a complete education?  Sorry, but life doesn’t have a rewind button.  It just doesn’t – so stop holding that over my head.  You should be happy I’m taking steps to be a productive member of society.

How do you expect me to complete my education without going to school?  Sorry but childcare isn’t free – and don’t suggest online school because I DID try that.

Same thing, how do you expect me to get a job to start getting on my feet without GOING to work?

All I have to say for financial aid is that almost anyone who is able to receive it – uses it.  There’s nothing wrong with that.  Can you pay for college out of pocket?  No?  Exactly.

The last one is just too ridiculous for an explanation.

No matter what I do in life – I could cure cancer – I will ALWAYS be a failure to some people because of ONE thing I did with my at-the-time boy friend.

Thankfully I don’t rely on those people for approval of myself – I don’t rely on anyone for that.

I know I’m doing what I need to do to make a future for myself and my daughter.  Plus NEWSFLASH people I WORK – I PAY THE SAME TAXES AS YOU DO.  I’m paying for that public assistance just like all of you are.

PE

It Takes a Village to Raise a Baby

You know that saying? Or something similar. I’m not very good at recalling things to the T.

Anyways, I’ve been giving this a lot of thought lately. It seems that since I’ve become a parent there’s a lot more judgment parents face than I ever knew.

We’ve become a world of ‘do-it-yourselfers’ (yes I know it’s not a word). It’s come to my attention that if you don’t do it all on your own that you’re basically a worthless piece of sh*t and the world’s most horrible parent.

You bring your child to daycare because you’re a single parent and need to work to raise your child? Well you better be aware that your child’s daycare provider is part of the raising of your child.

You have someone watch your child(ren) once on the weekend once in a blue moon so maybe you can have some time to yourself or with your significant other? You’re lazy and how dare you for leaving your child with someone to have a break?! Especially if you’re a working parent mind you, because I guess working is a relaxing break from your child(ren). Definitely isn’t for me that’s for sure.

I could go on and on.

The thing is, NONE of us do it ALL on our own. Not unless you or husband works, and then one stays home with the children, you never ever have someone babysit your children, your children never spend time at a friends house, and you homeschool your children till they move out of the house. I guess there’s some people like that out there but if I didn’t get a single moment away from my child till they were 18 or out of the house, I’d probably go batty.

What’s wrong with having other people helping in the raising of your children? What happened to the days where the whole town was one big family and everyone took care of one another. It’s every man for themselves today and in my opinion it’s sad.

What’s wrong with living in a multi-generational house? That’s how they did it 50 years ago. Everyone pitched in and did what they could do to help the family. What’s wrong with that?

What kind of society are we in today? Do we go overboard with the idea of independency?

PE