You know that saying? Or something similar. I’m not very good at recalling things to the T.
Anyways, I’ve been giving this a lot of thought lately. It seems that since I’ve become a parent there’s a lot more judgment parents face than I ever knew.
We’ve become a world of ‘do-it-yourselfers’ (yes I know it’s not a word). It’s come to my attention that if you don’t do it all on your own that you’re basically a worthless piece of sh*t and the world’s most horrible parent.
You bring your child to daycare because you’re a single parent and need to work to raise your child? Well you better be aware that your child’s daycare provider is part of the raising of your child.
You have someone watch your child(ren) once on the weekend once in a blue moon so maybe you can have some time to yourself or with your significant other? You’re lazy and how dare you for leaving your child with someone to have a break?! Especially if you’re a working parent mind you, because I guess working is a relaxing break from your child(ren). Definitely isn’t for me that’s for sure.
I could go on and on.
The thing is, NONE of us do it ALL on our own. Not unless you or husband works, and then one stays home with the children, you never ever have someone babysit your children, your children never spend time at a friends house, and you homeschool your children till they move out of the house. I guess there’s some people like that out there but if I didn’t get a single moment away from my child till they were 18 or out of the house, I’d probably go batty.
What’s wrong with having other people helping in the raising of your children? What happened to the days where the whole town was one big family and everyone took care of one another. It’s every man for themselves today and in my opinion it’s sad.
What’s wrong with living in a multi-generational house? That’s how they did it 50 years ago. Everyone pitched in and did what they could do to help the family. What’s wrong with that?
What kind of society are we in today? Do we go overboard with the idea of independency?
Diana over at Trying to Make Things Right made a post “I like Bacon and i’m not ashamed” about women’s fascination with being smaller than normal. Included in her post was a picture of her from several years ago when she was much smaller and one from now with a bit of extra weight on her. Of course she looks much healthier and even more fabulous now!
It struck a thought in my mind about how much I look different from before I had my daughter, after I had her and then today.
I know, not much of a difference between the pictures but I’m not sure which looks best or most healthy. I think I’m pretty comfortable with what I am now because I can actually fit IN clothing instead of having everything fall OFF. Now I can walk around and not be worried about my pants falling down or having to pull them up every 5 seconds. What’s sad is that when the clothes were falling off of me I was a size 0 and now I’m closer to a size 1 (I think – since summer started I can’t fit into any of my size 0 clothes and haven’t went shopping for anything so I’m always wearing athletic clothes). But I do kind-of miss my fuller figure after having my daughter. I’d say I’m pretty happy with what I have now. I’ve done a lot of weight-lifting and work to gain more weight and I’ve done a good job at it.